I’ve always believed in goals but now that I am a fine and fancy widow, goals have become a critical part of my mental and emotional health. I no longer am delighted with the love and approval reflected in my beloved’s eyes so I need to measure my own success. This was a skill that I did not develop until I was 40. I was not raised to believe in myself and my own success. I was raised to always put myself last and to endure whatever was thrown at me, including fists. Having someone believe in you can change your entire outlook on life. I know it did for me.
I’m suffering from the early stages of spring fever. My project list is down from 100 to 36 and I am itching to finish something. The project list doesn’t include the new planter boxes I want or any gardening tasks! I don’t have the baseboard molding 100% done, I need a threshold and door sweep weather stripping installed and there is a 2′ x 3′ section of flooring still left to complete. The problem is I need the big saw to complete these tasks. It’s put up for the winter. During the summer when the rains have passed, I leave the saw out under the awning and put it away for family get togethers. I was going to drag it out for a few hours on Saturday but there was a light drizzle during the daylight that turned in to a rain at night.
We need the rain desperately! One of the main NorCal water reservoirs is the Folsom Lake. The marina has floating boat slip/docks. They have been laying on dirt for over a year now. We are far from being out of the water crisis but, I was so happy to see the live camera shot of floating docks! Folsom Lake Marina Live Cam Boats are permitted for launch starting this Saturday. Please pray for more snow in the Sierras.
Folsom Lake at capacity would mean plenty of water for the American River and all the towns between Sacramento to San Francisco. It would mean no restricted watering. One of the projects on the “list” is to change 1,800 sq. ft. of grass service into stamped concrete. I removed another 400 sq. ft. from the front yard but never finished the project. That will require some dirt excavation, a tree removal (it’s touching the roof), a walkway removal and another concrete pour. Oh, and I’m not supposed to lift over 40 lbs. while doing it!
But the “list” is not getting any shorter, I need to accomplish something! Arrrrgh! My doctor said I was supposed to be kind and gentle with myself and stop beating myself up so much, to take it easy. Raised in a performance for love environment, this is extremely hard for me even today.
I could work overtime tomorrow but I don’t think that is going to happen. Too much goes to taxes and then there is the “list”. The sun is supposed to shine from 6 a.m. to noon and then cloudy for the rest of the day. President’s weekend is booked solid for the SAN FRANCISCO WRITER’S CONFERENCE (woot!) so I won’t be working on my projects then. What’s that old saying, make hay while the sun shines or, in my case, finish something! I can at least say my writing goals are fairly up to date. I’ve started a local writing critique group and surrounded myself with author support. How are you sticking to your goals?